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I’m in a hip-hop mood today, listening to The Roots and just doing my best to get through the day without incident. I’ve given a little thought to “resolutions” for the year and I’m not sure that it’s the way for me to go in 2006. I’m not going to do an überlist this year, but there are certainly goals I’d like to accomplish. I just haven’t figured out how I’m going to sort them out.
One thing I do want to do is be in the kitchen a bit more, and I’ve already mentioned having cheesecake parties over the year. Only problem is, when it comes to cheesecake, I’m pretty much a plain jane kinda guy. I like the creamy, thick New York style, the only change I make is the crust. So I’m soliciting cheesecake recipes from one and all, it can be the whole recipe, the name of something, or just general ideas to spark inspiration. Ambitious as it may be, I want to make at least two a month (I’ve been inspired by 52 cupcakes, but I think a cheesecake a week is pure insanity) – so please send me your ideas. Oh and be prepared to eat your words, naturally. 😉
Jenifer and I were discussing what our theme would be for 2006 and I jokingly asked if I could steal Mary’s “No More Drama” – then proceeded to talk about some writing projects for this journal that wouldn’t necessarily contribute to that theme. But one thing that I am doing is removing myself from situations that make me uncomfortable, painful as that may be. There are places I don’t like to be, people I don’t care to deal with, things that I have compromised myself to do just to be one o’ the gang and it’s time for that to stop. Not that this year will be all about me, more reminding myself that it need not be all about them. I forsee a little bit of collateral damage, but the burden of that may be on the involved parties just as much as it is on me.
* flickr user DJ Lyte had a go with one of my pics in Photoshop and produced a different, but really nice result. I should let him play with the other ones too.
Your non-resolution regarding drama is one I highly endorse. I made a similar decision a few years ago, and it’s generally made me a lot happier, if a little more distant from people sometimes. But you know what? If I’m distant from them, there’s generally a good reason. It’s a healthy way to live.
Many might think that gay men are insane to attempt a “non-drama” lifestyle, and with some of the friends I have that can’t seem to exist without it, I’m hard pressed to agree. But it’s really about trying to do what you have to to secure your own happiness without it being at the expense of others. And it does feel SO much better in the long run.
And every time I’ve become a bit more distant from a social group as a whole, there are always those people that shine out and advance when I retreat, in an attempt to make a strong social connection. That’s earned me some of the best friends in my life.